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Usage examples of fantasies.

Rosemarie Basson, a Canadian sex researcher and therapist, who observed that couples in long-term relationships often do not experience as many spontaneous sexual thoughts or fantasies as they used to.

Men deprive themselves of the time to luxuriate in fantasies and desires that are personal and individuated and frequently turn to the generic visuals of porn to catalyze the process.

They often reserve their innermost fantasies for static, airbrushed images and anonymous encounters in chat rooms.

Numerous studies, as well as my own clinical experience, support the fact that many individuals see their sexual fantasies in a somewhat negative light and, thereby, repress them to varying degrees.

But the truth is our sexual thoughts and fantasies are so unique that, to anyone else, each and every one of us is something of a pervert.

Scooby snacks, what this boils down to is that fantasies, much like dreams, free your brain to explore secret, extraordinary realms without the compunction of practicality, morality, or logic.

Just look at any Internet porn site, and you will find an encyclopedic menu of readily available prefabricated fantasies that span from orgies and bondage to sex with farm animals.

Based on clinical data, approximately one out of four people report some degree of guilt, ambivalence, or fear associated with their sexual fantasies, so much so that it impairs their sex lives.

Many fear that their fantasies signify mental illness or worry that, unless curbed, thoughts of illicit conduct will eventually bubble to the surface and demand overt enactment.

Such fantasies usually center on sexual behaviors that are deemed morally unacceptable or illicit.

For example, I meet lots of sensitive guys raised in the wake of feminism, who, much like their feminist counterparts, feel guilty about fantasies involving sexual domination.

In the best of circumstances, fantasies can help us bridge the gap between our inner worlds and the world at large, allowing us to explore safely what me most desire and fear.

And what is important to understand about the prevalence of male fantasies about lesbianism and orgies is that it alleviates the pressure to perform.

The love map lies at the root of our sexual preferences, explaining why we prefer one physical type over another and influencing our sexual fantasies and practices.

Finding out his fantasies and his sexual fingerprint is the key to unlocking his unique turn-ons.