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spectatoring

n. The act of a person focusing on him/herself during sexual activity, as if watching oneself as a third person.

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Spectatoring

Spectatoring is a process suggested by Masters and Johnson (1970) that involves a person focusing on him/herself "from a third person perspective during sexual activity, rather than focusing on one's sensations and/or sexual partner, can increase performance fears and cause deleterious effects on sexual performance."