The Collaborative International Dictionary
Allower
Allower \Al*low"er\, n.
An approver or abettor. [Obs.]
One who allows or permits.
Wiktionary
allower
n. One who allows or permits.
Usage examples of "allower".
In response to these injunctions we give ourselves instructions, some of these self-messages are helpful in counteracting the injunctions, called allowers, and some are harmful, called drivers.
We could, of course, learn to give ourselves a more realistically helpful message, an allower, such as "It's OK to be yourself and less than perfect.
If you give yourself a lot of upsetting "Be Perfect" or "Hurry Up" or "Try Harder" or "Don't Be Emotional" messages, develop some "Allower" messages: It's okay to make mistakes, to take my time, to act on my feelings, to assert myself, to be average, etc.